I am 27 years old, and recently I had a near-death kind of experience (Now that’s is a story for another time.) which made me play a flashback video upon these twenty-seven years of my life in my head and forced me to re-evaluate ‘what matters in the larger scheme of life’.
So, without wasting any of your time, here’s a quick list of lessons that I would like to share with you :
1. Learn to discipline your mind. It does come handy in tough times to keep yourself centered.
You need to learn to control your emotions.
Earlier you learn this skill, the better. Quick tip? Meditation helps.
“If you are quiet enough, you will hear the flow of the universe. You will feel its rhythm. Go with this flow. Happiness lies ahead. Meditation is the key.” — Buddha
2. People make honest mistakes. Give people second chances, although, not to get hurt again. Play wisely.
3. Being nice to people is good. But Learn to say NO when necessary (Assertively).
4. Take chances for things you really-really believe in.
“The amount of growth you will experience in your life depends on how much uncertainty you can handle” — Someone else
5. Learn from your mistakes. Look for the patterns.
6. Learn to stand your ground and state your opinion. Take a stand for yourself. Because if you won’t. Who will?
7. Even if you are an introvert person who works behind a desk — Learn the art of negotiation and practice it. It might come handy in some other scenario of life. :)
8. Expressing feelings is a tricky game sometimes, not too much, not too little. It needs just the right amount — in person. Find your balance. Master the art of it.
9. Read more books (From different Authors, On different topics).
“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go” — Someone else
10. Focus on the essentials and remove the clutter.
Learn more about living a minimalistic life from Joshua and Ryan.
11. Keep your moral compass pointed north — Whether its money, relationships, work or something else — Don’t cheat — it doesn’t end on a good note. Play fair.
12. Be fluent with at least one spoken language. Like really — really good.
13. Even if your work needs you to be online in your working hours — practice spending some time offline — away from the noise.
14. Learn to think things through. (I strongly recommend reading this embedded link)
One major difference that separates the average men from the brilliant ones is how the brilliant ones get down to solving a complex problem -
a) They start to solve where the problem begins, and not jump where the probable solution might lie.
b) They don’t stop just after peeling off one layer like most average people do, because the process is mentally tiring. They get down to the physics of it — they take their time to solve the problem till they find a solid well-reasoned solution.
15. Invest in Experiences rather than in buying expensive stuff. (This is subjective I know but leaving this one to your fine sense of judgement :D )
16. Running helps to build the ‘won’t quit easy’ mindset. Which in turn develops one of the essential characteristics of human nature — Persistence. (It did for me)
17. Hone one skill and be extremely good at it. Stop being the jack of all trades. Why? Read here.
18. Health does come first. Sadly we realise that the most once we are sick and unable to do things we love to do.
I realised it 3 months back, and I do wish I wasn’t ignorant when my body was telling me something isn’t quite right. Don’t repeat my mistake? Take time out to meditate and workout. It’s essential.
19. Living life on just one source of income isn’t very reliable. After this 2020 pandemic with so many people losing their jobs, we know its wiser to have multiple sources of income. Try Fiverr or any other freelancing website that works for you. :)
20. Flings don’t matter when you look back. Honest Friendships do. Seriously!
21. Every week schedule some time to reflect on your life, that’s when you get the insights as to where you can improve and do better in your life and eventually change the course of your life.
22. Even 6 months of working dedicatedly towards improving yourself can put you ahead in life than mediocrely working out for the next 2 years.
Also, Procrastinate less.
23. Pleasing people doesn’t work — perhaps the people you are gonna go pleasing think you’re a fool and doesn’t have an opinion of your own or are too afraid to say it out. You don’t want them thinking that right? Cool.
Stand your ground. No people-pleasing from now onwards.
24. Commitments produce consistency, builds trust and increases self-confidence, Learn the art of commitment.
25. Make friends with people from different states and countries and keep in touch with them. Apparently, your perspective and reach will broaden. You will know how they solve some problems entirely differently(possibly in a good way) than you and the society you currently live in. One of the Best way for knowledge exchange among other things. :)
26. Abusive childhood, lost love, had a disability or something else — still Your Life — YOUR RESPONSIBILITY. Take charge.
27. Lastly, As one of my friend says (who I adore very much) :
“If it doesn’t bring you peace, Drop it! — perhaps its too costly.”
Well- well, If you read till the end, thank you very much for your time. If you found this article useful. Share it with your loved ones :)