“Mr. Franz, I think careers are a 20th Century invention and I don’t want one. You don’t need to worry about me; I have a college education. I’m not destitute. I’m living like this by choice.” ~ Jon Krakaeur.
Just give it a thought, what was pre-industrial revolution life like?
Without the internet and the large-scale capitalism of the 21st century? A little laid back and easy-going ? Perhaps! We can only imagine!
Most people still had definite roles? Sure. Some of them were possibly warriors or farmers or traders or doctors and so on, and while there must be a healthy competition to be one of the best in the neighborhood or district or say a kingdom.
However, I suppose the competition wasn’t as fierce as that of today’s world. In today’s world, no matter if you are a doctor, or an engineer, or in any other profession. You gotta stay ahead on the latest advancements in your field of work.
And while it is true, work occupies a large part of our lives, it isn’t the only thing that is there to life.
In today’s world we are juggling so many things at once — trying to work out a career, trying to work out our finances right, trying to stay healthy, trying to give time to our parents or spouse or children, trying to learn new skills, trying to build new habits, trying to build new products — that’s a lot to juggle with…right?
I often wonder how do people manage to do that all at once — while being calm and without being too stressed about it?
The two possible thoughts that come to my mind are :
- Put on your plate only as much as you can eat.
- Learn to automate/delegate all that you can and then strive for a balance between various aspects of your life.
In the modern world, we have so many temptations, I mean open up the web browser and everything is seeking your attention and then you want most of the things — the new iPhone, that new car, that fancy beach house, that new dress, oh the new gaming console is launching next month, or there’s a new pair of costly Nike sneakers on Amazon that look cool — Everything is seeking your attention, and now you want more than you even need — Which puts us in the rat race to earn more on the cost of our health and relationships, even our hobbies and interests some times.
So we strive to earn more money on the cost of our health and then use that money to refuel our health. [Because hey! Health is important.] — and that’s a loop with most aspects of our lives.
We chase one thing endlessly say money or even an abusive relationship or something else for that matter, until the other aspects of our life falls out — say the health deteriorates, as a consequence of working long hours or we lose our job while trying to chase an abusive relationship that we thought was the ‘love of our life and neglecting our work in the chase.
It eventually turns out sour for us in some or the other aspect of our life.
“Too much of anything is harmful.” ~ Ancestors.
What did you miss? Where did you go wrong?
If only you had realized the importance of balance in life, the importance of giving priority to your health or relationships in just the right amount — instead of working long hours relentlessly and then feeling unsatisfied on relationships front, or missing to realize the importance of self-growth, self- respect, over chasing someone for a relationship. It all comes down to balance.
A balance between the key aspects of your life. — Health, Work, Relationships, Finance, Social Needs. Personal Growth and Learning. — Everything is equally important to lead a better life. You chase one and misalign another only to come running back to align the one you just messed up — and clearly that isn’t going to work. Balance and alignment has to be the key to living a happy and successful life in the modern world.
So no matter who tells you what, think about your life and decide for yourself. If you enjoy the rat race and fast paced life, good for you. But if you don’t. Stop. Stop and reflect upon your life.
- Is this how you really wanted to live your life — say before or after your graduation? What kind of life did you imagine then?
- How many beautiful moments/ experiences have you had in past 2 years that you can cherish for life?
- Sure, you are making 7 figure salary but are you able to spend time with your family and focus on your health?
- More importantly, Is this lifestyle sustainable? For how long?
- Can you clearly differentiate between your ‘needs’ and ‘wants’, Is your Work aligned towards your wants or your needs?
- What would you be doing in your life if it wasn’t for the money?
- Who are your idols, people who your are inspired from? Cared to learn from them about their good habits, morning routines and how do they maintain balance in their life? — A lot of successful people share online , how they manage to pull a lot without disrupting their relationships, their health and other key aspects of their life.
- What matters to you? Have you allotted any time in your schedule to prioritize what’s important to you? If not, is it important enough?
Sure those are some tough questions to ask yourself. You might not have answers right away. But if you are unhappy — You need to find the answers — inwards.
P.S. — Believe me this is not meant to demotivate the ones who are chasing their wants, go ahead and fulfil all your desires and satisfy all your wants if it works for you. However, if it’s not working out for you, stop lying to yourself and Re-evaluate your choices, your decisions and what you can do to optimise your life for better health, better relationships, better personal growth and learning or whatever your life goal is. Peace.
This was a very impromptu writing session for me. I would be happy know what are your thoughts and experiences around this piece of writing in the comments. :) Also, Feel free to connect with me on twitter, if you like : https://twitter.com/rahultyagi__